With everything that is happening in this world around sexual assault and violation, I felt I had to write about this. I want to write about this from the anatomy, nervous system, and healing perspective. Pelvic bowl healing has never felt so important and profound to me as it does right now. I’m going to address pelvic trauma, how to begin to feel into your own body about this, and assure you that healing IS possible! These bodies are so brilliant.
Pelvic trauma includes assault but goes so much wider than that. Pelvic trauma can be painful sexual experiences, falling on the tailbone, car accidents, traumatic birth, early life trauma, abortion, medical procedures, STI’s, and more.
** To begin, you may want to make a list of all the experiences your pelvic bowl has had in your lifetime.
The myth is that pelvic trauma may be something like “it’s just how it is” and you have to learn how to deal with it. On some level, there may be something that is a process for you. On another level, I know from my own experience and so many I’ve worked with that the pelvic bowl is able to release the imprint and pain of trauma.
People that have gone through sexual violation (either extreme and known or something more subtle that they may not even understand is violating) have trouble with cognitive functioning, emotional regulation, fertility, circulation, digestion, bladder issues, memory, in addition to the standard assumptions about painful intercourse and difficulty with pleasure.
*Side note: it also changes the voice because of how the body is wired, there are so many subtleties like this.
More often than not, for most of the people I work with on my table, some kind of assault, rape, harassment, abuse comes through. It pains me that this number is so high but it brings me so much joy to offer the service that can release it. I know well the imprint of violation on others. I can FEEL it in my hands. I see the impact of violation on the tissue that is visible and I can feel it in the tissue that is internal. This shows up on the labia. The cervix. The digestive organs. The uterus. The muscles holding the vaginal canal. The nerves running through these tissues. In the ligaments and tendons that connect the leg bones into the pelvic girdle. I can see and feel the way the body forms patterns around it all.
* Notice what you feel in your body right now. What are your emotions? What are your physical sensations? Put your hands on your own body to comfort yourself if this is challenging to read. Take a break and come back to it and know that sometimes this works in small doses.
I can feel it as this all releases. I feel it pass through. I know what rage and grief feels like. I want to cry for them and sometimes I do. I want to rejoice in celebration of their bodily freedom and I do. I feel the collaborative effort it takes between us to release it all.
Do you know what I’ve learned? The body is so kind, so resilient, so loving if given permission and care. Bodies that have been shut down for decades take their first breath of true expansion. This impacts the above pieces and leads to overall well-being, greater health, more clear thinking, less emotional reactivity, more creativity and pleasure, and so much more.
Pure rage is powerful but do you know what is even MORE powerful? The expansion. The liberation and freedom. It is so beautiful to feel and to witness.
In today’s world it is a revolutionary act to liberate and awaken to the true current of pleasure and love that lives inside. To walk through the world in THAT without being afraid of what it could result in.
This, not only this, but this is why I’ve made my own form of healing that is so sacred and precious to me. Ready to take your healing into your own hands? Contact me, leave your comments here, email me, I love hearing from you.
With love, Alicia